Being a rabbi or rabbinical student can already feel isolating before your identity and physical and mental reality are taken into account.

Being autistic, neurodivergent, disabled, or queer in Jewish communal spaces can make that isolation sharper, quieter, and harder to name.

This work exists for my colleagues who don’t quite fit the image of what a rabbi is “supposed” to be – and who are tired of trying to contort themselves into it.

I offer peer-support coaching specifically for rabbis and rabbinical students, with a particular focus on autistic and other neurodivergent bodyminds, disabled community members, and queer folks navigating Jewish leadership, study, and institutional life.

This isn’t therapy, nor is it life coaching.

And it’s not about “fixing” you.

It’s about support, clarity, and sustainability.

I work with people who are:

• Autistic or otherwise neurodivergent in rabbinic, cantorial, or other clergy training

• Disabled rabbis (or other clergy) or students navigating burnout, access needs, and systemic barriers

• Queer and trans rabbis (or other clergy) and students holding multiple margins at once

• People who love Torah deeply but feel harmed, exhausted, or erased by rabbinic culture

• Leaders who are expected to hold everyone else while receiving very little holding themselves

If you feel like you’re constantly masking in order to survive rabbinic spaces – intellectually, socially, spiritually, or physically – you are not alone. And you are not failing.

My work is grounded in autistic experience, disability justice, and lived rabbinic reality.

In our sessions, we might work with:

• Autistic masking and unmasking in rabbinic roles

• Burnout, shutdown, and chronic dysregulation – without moralising them

• Sensory, emotional, and executive load in study, teaching, and communal leadership

• Boundaries with institutions, supervisors, congregations, and communities

• The gap between rabbinic ideals and the actual cost to your bodymind

• Rebuilding a relationship to Torah and the Divine that doesn’t require self-erasure

This is practical and relational work. We slow things down. We name what’s actually happening. We look at what is sustainable for you, not what institutions claim should be sustainable for everyone.

I don’t believe autistic or disabled rabbis need to become “more resilient” to broken systems. I believe we need support to survive them – and, where possible, to change them.

I’m autistic and multiply disabled myself.

I’m a rabbinical student and teacher. Beyond that, I’m an Autistic Peer-Support Coach working in the field since 2006.

I work every day with autistic adults around burnout, regulation, boundaries, and survival.

That means I’m not approaching this from theory alone. I understand the constant calculation, the fear of being seen as “too much” or “not enough,” and the pressure to be endlessly available, regulated, and inspiring – no matter the cost.

Peer support means we meet as humans with shared realities, not as an expert diagnosing a problem.

You don’t need to justify your needs here.

You don’t need to perform competence or calm.

You don’t need to translate yourself.